I’ve been getting a lot of emails from readers lately asking what to do when they “can’t,” most typically as it relates to fitness, nutrition and healthy living.
Here are a few examples:
- “I’ve been following along on your Facebook page/IG/Twitter and I can’t keep up with your workout intensity.”
- “I can’t afford the food that you can.”
- “I don’t have the time, or the schedule that you do.”
- “I’m injured and short duration, high intensity exercise is out.”
Have you ever spoken these words? *raises hand* Contrary to popular belief, which may have you thinking that there’s a scientific response to this question, or some sort of protocol to follow, my answer is actually quite simple: do what you CAN. Energy focused on what you cannot (also, who you are not) is energy wasted that could be put toward arguably more productive endeavors. And it all starts with a MINDSET shift.
Enough of the “I can’t’s” because, really, you can do or have whatever it is that you want. Instead, practice saying “I choose to/not to…” This shift in verbiage is subtle, but hugely empowering. Tell yourself you can, even when you don’t think you can. Fake it ’til you make it. Try it! Really works. 😉 Maybe your circumstance isn’t ideal, but it is what it is and doesn’t have to be perfect. In fact, f*ck perfect. You can always do better. Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. #getbetter
*Funny story: Back when I was first getting started on this post-grad journey, envisioning a life that I thought could only exist in my dreams, Jill Coleman of JillFit Physiques said to me: “Emily, you get to create your reality in every moment and with every thought, feeling and action.” Did I believe it? At the time, not really. *laughs* (I just recently rehired her as a biz coach for the second year in a row #bestofyou <– highly reco) Two years later, I know that she couldn’t have been more right. #selftrust
The outside really does begin on the inside so now that we’ve got [that] squared away, let’s chat fitness for a hot second. So what if you can’t keep up with me?! You’re not me! I am me and you are you. S’all good. As Theodore Roosevelt once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” If you can’t lift, for whatever reason, don’t. Can you walk, sprint, do yoga, spin (insert activity of choice here)? If so, great. Do that, and remember that ACTION will always trump inaction. Or maybe you can lift, but are new to the world of weights and feel incompetent. I get it. I’ve been there, too. But guess what? CONSISTENT practice over time e.g. weeks, months, years is the only way to get better in any/all that you do. To quote one of my biggest inspirations, Jade Teta of Metabolic Effect, “Don’t wish for easy. Easy is earned; not by hard work, but by hard falls. The falls are the stepping stones to success. They are required to learn and master.” #truthbomb
And because we can’t talk training without regard for our nutrition, I am going to touch on that for a quick minute. But first, I want to be clear on one thing: you do NOT need to shop at Whole Foods to live the “Fat Loss Lifestyle.” Fat loss really, truly happens anywhere. It all comes down to CHOICES; making the *better* choice when we can, choosing what we put into our mouths (and don’t). #noexcuses Buy organic when you can (prioritize if you have to with the “Dirty Dozen” and “Clean Fifteen”), but don’t stress if/when you can’t.
*If you say your budget is what’s holding you back, here are a few reminders/quick tips (more about this here):
- Conventional broccoli will always trump the organic cookie
- If you can’t buy fresh, buy frozen (e.g. fruits, veggies). Same thing, frozen fresh.
- Buy in bulk.
- “Ritualize don’t habitualize” (a la Dr. Jillian Teta) meals out to save money. Prep food at home and save big time.
- Quality food and medical bills both cost. Ask yourself where you’d rather spend your dollars.
Like with anything, you choose where you spend both your time and money. If your health and wellness are a priority, you’ll both make the time and allocate for it in your budget. Do your ACTIONS align with your INTENTIONS? If not, it may be time to reevaluate your priorities. And remember: do your best because your best is all you can do.
If you’re still struggling in the realms of fitness, nutrition, mindset and healthy lifestyle, registration for SimplyFit Coaching Club is still open, but until 9 p.m. Sunday, Jan 4th ONLY! All the deets here. Questions? Let me know on my Facebook page or email me. 🙂